Once upon a time, I was a smart, hard-working engineer and business owner. I had invested the requisite blood, sweat, and many, many tears in building a career, and a life, that by all objective measures was the very definition of success. I exceeded every expectation of the people around me. I became known as […]
Coaching
“If Life is So Good, Why Do I Feel So Bad?”
Unfulfilled: As I do this work, I have started to see the same thoughts come up for so many women, friends and colleagues, and even those I don’t know well who have shared their deep sadness. Women who have gotten to a point in life where by all objective measures the world tells them they […]
The Magic of a Simple Question
Conversations: I had a couple of conversations in the last month or so that were unusual for me and had some interesting commonalities. Both of these conversations were with women I had just met, just been purposefully introduced to, and neither of them were probably people I would have run into otherwise, without a daisy […]
Finding the Balance Between the Masculine and the Feminine at Work
Workplace Culture: I have been thinking a lot lately about how a workplace would function if the values focused on a partnership system (“power with”), and less of a domination system (“power over”), thanks to the amazing book The Real Wealth of Nations, by Riane Eisler. And there are definitely some traditional “feminine” and “masculine” […]
Who’s Tired of Being Tired?
More Doing! It’s part of our culture to always be “doing”. Doing more, doing better, doing faster, as long as there’s lots of doing. If we’re not too busy, we should be ashamed of ourselves, right? It’s it just lazy and self-indulgent, to take time to relax and take care of ourselves, right? Whose message […]
How to Make Peace with Your “Shoulds”
The “Shoulds”: We often don’t have any doubt that we should be better parents/spouses/partners, should strive for a different body, should hold back to keep people from being uncomfortable, should work harder, should exercise more, should keep our mouths shut when we don’t agree, should give up carbs, should respect authority, should believe it when […]